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One-sided love? You learn a lot.

I remember sitting alongside a girl I liked, feeling electrified while looking into her big green eyes. I remember us getting stuck in a conversation, discovering things we had in common. I always hated the fact that she never felt the same, I mean how can it be possible for her not feeling the same as I did. I remember each time I trusted her again, sooner or later, she found a way to defy me. My feelings meant nothing to her, and for her love, she would make me sacrifice it.

That night I went to sleep under the night sky, thinking about her the whole night, sometimes praying, but feeling a bit lonely. I wanted to get over her,  but I knew it wasn't that simple. Every time she needed someone I was always there for her. I just wanted to make her feel that there is someone for her, and I was never able to understand that my relationship was slowly getting parasitic. I always wanted a mutual relationship, but the fact that I was chasing her, made it an impossible task.

I remember the time when I compared myself to the lover of my love. I used to cry myself to sleep thinking why wasn't I like him. I learned a lot, but it was just another stupid mistake imitating him. I could have been much better when I was myself, rather than trying to be someone else. Love changed my life in a way I can't explain, but the truth is that I love this change, and I am glad that I had the opportunity to experience it.

One-sided love is one of the most beautiful experiences, sometimes referred to as the most painful one. You never realize the fact that it does end the opportunities of having a healthy relationship with someone who would love you the way you wanted. I remember ignoring amazing people, only to be with you, and I remember the way you ignored me to be with someone you liked the most. Some would call it Karma, but for me, it was a life lesson. You look into your past and then blame yourself for the things that have happened, but the reality is that you learn the best only from your own experiences.

There's a lot to say about one-sided love, but I'd make it non-existent if I could. Yes, you heard that right, the world would have been an ideal place if that were the case. Being realistic makes things a bit more complicated and little tough to face. Not all people are meant to be with you for a lifetime, but you hate it even more if the person you love doesn't love you back. Your partner does care about you, and you do not accept the fact that your love would never love you. It's like keeping a hopeless hope, and by the time we realize that it would never be like that before, it's already too late.

In the end, I was always alone, but the reason that I cared about her more than myself, made it worse. The only advice I would give you is not to assume that you are strong enough to handle stuff, remember sometimes you can get yourself stuck in the situations where you need a right partner, not only to deal with stuff but also to help you get over that. If your partner is making you weak, then it might be an appropriate time to leave. Giving up on someone is tough, you might need someone's help, but I suggest you, choose your friends wisely.

So, the four things that I would like you to learn from this article are -
1. It's impossible to control the way we love people, but the way we treat them is what that matters.
2. Never compare yourself with the lover of your love, nobody is perfect.
3. There's a lot to learn from people, but that doesn't mean you copy them.
4. Try to get yourself a person who is trustworthy and can behave maturely at the time of need.

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  1. Jayant SuranaJuly 8, 2018 at 5:27 AM

    This topic was suggested to me by one of my friends. Suggest me topics in the comments section or personally on my email, and I would let you know when I post it. Thank you for reading.

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  2. UnknownJuly 8, 2018 at 8:09 AM

    Way to go jayant! That was really heart touching.. i wish you find your way out in this situation.. 👏♥️

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    1. Jayant SuranaJuly 8, 2018 at 9:14 AM

      Thank you very much for your wishes. Means a lot!

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